今天你可能说了很多话,也可能只是听别人说话。。。
今天你可能做了很多事,可是想做的不是这些事。。。
到了夜晚,你还想听什么,做什么?
CVC中文广播电台,星期一到五,晚上八点到十点,聆听夜语
于玲听你说说话、聊心事。。。

2009年8月17日

星期一 - 心情小故事

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生命的掌声

那是我上高中一年级的时候,班里有位叫英子的女孩子,沉静漂亮,但是她总是蜷缩在教室的一角。上课前,她早早地就来到了教室,下课之后,她又是最后一个离开教室。后来我们才知道,她的腿因为得了小儿麻痹症,而落下了残疾,她不愿意让人看到她走路的姿势。

一天,上演讲课时,老师让同学们上台来讲一个小故事。轮到英子演讲的时候,全班四十多双眼睛一齐都投向那个角落,英子立即把头低下来。上演讲课的老师是刚调来的,她不了解英子的情况,她就一直点英子的名字。

英子犹豫了一会,然后慢慢地站起来。我们注意到了,英子的眼圈红了。

在全班同学的注视下,英子终于一摇一晃地走上了讲台,就在她刚刚站定的一刹那,不知是在谁的带动下,全班骤然间响起了一阵热烈的掌声,那掌声热烈而且持久,在掌声里,我们看到英子的眼泪流了下来。

掌声渐渐平息了,英子也定了定情绪,开始讲述她童年的一个故事,她的普通话说得很标准,声音也十分地动听。当她结束演讲的时候,班上又响起了一阵热烈的掌声。英子很礼貌地向老师深鞠一躬,又向同学们深躹一躬,然后,又在掌声里一摇一晃地走下了讲台。

奇怪的是,自从那次演讲之后,英子就像变了一个人似的,她不再是那么忧郁了,她和同学们在一块游戏、说笑,甚至还有一次她还走进了学校的小舞厅,让同学们教她跳舞。后来,英子的学习成绩一直很好。尤其是数学和物理,高二那一年,她代表我们学校参加了全国奥林匹克物理竞赛,她还获了奖。

三年时间勿勿而过,英子被北京一所大学录取。后来英子给我来信说:“我永远都不会忘记那一次掌声,因为她使我明白,同学们并没有岐视我。我应该鼓起勇气,勇敢地面对生活,是那次掌声给了我第二次生命,我感谢那次掌声。”

我这才明白了英子为什么变得开朗活泼的原因。从那以后,我学会了给人鼓掌,尤其是别人身处困境的时候。其实人都是需要掌声的。在人生的舞台上,谁不希望自己的演出得到喝彩?掌声,是一种尊重,是一种鼓励,它会使人产生一种无穷无尽的力量,会真正使人有了一种尊严和自我永远向上的信心,同时,掌声也是对一个人的生命的鼓励和肯定。

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我们要给予别人和自己更多的掌声!

从心理学的角度讲: 心理学认为,自卑,是指自我评价偏低,并伴有自怨自艾,悲观失望等轻视自我或担心失去他人尊重的态度体验和消极心理倾向。

自卑的人常常情不自禁地过分地夸大自己的缺点,甚至毫无根据地会臆造出自己的许多弱点,还总是拿自己的短处和别人的长处要比,不能冷静地分析自己所受的挫折,不能正确地对待自己的过失,不能认真思考别人对自己的期望,也不能客观地理解别人对自己的批评,把自己看得一无是处,失去信心,对那些经过努力就能够达到的目标,也轻易放弃。

产生自卑的原因很多,本文英子一例,就是典型的由于客观原因造成的——-即对自己生理素质的不满意,与别人比较时,觉得自己不如别人,为此而感到的自卑,因此,他们比别人的自尊心更强,就更容易怕“别人瞧不起自己”,而在同学中,使自己的自卑感越来越加重。

另外,英子是个患“小儿麻痹症”,而落下的残疾,她自己对这个自身的缺陷反应得十分敏感,而对自己的优点和长处却缺乏正确的全面的认识,她错误地认为,那些天生的自然条件很重要,它会决定自己的社会地位和人生的价值,她忽视了却是最重要的,那就是:智慧、意志和人格等内在的因素,而看不到它们对于人生的决定意义。

实践证明:当她慢慢地站起来,甚至是红着眼圈,一摇一晃地走上了讲台时,全班同学没有丝毫取笑她的反应,相反,全班同学报以雷鸣般的掌声,鼓励她,这使英子的心受到极大的震撼——一种任信、感激、希望、的情感油然而生,使她情不自禁,泪如泉涌……此时,英子像变了一个人似的,她在短短的时间内,很快地平静了内心的激动,开始用她的特有的智慧、发自肺腑的语言、全部的情感,声情并茂地讲述她亲身经历的故事……而使她的故事更加感人至深,同学们非但没有取笑她,而对她的坚强、聪明用掌声给予特殊的肯定,当她结束自己演讲的时候,在这一刻,她才真正对自己有了自信,“我能行!”

大家可曾想过:英子在一个特殊的场合下,获得了饱含激励的掌声,这对她来说,这是多么珍贵的鼓励与支持,是的,她会从此不再自卑,成为一个坚强无比的人,事实也充分证明了这一点。

因此,在人与人的交际中,我们要多给人以鼓励,不要吝啬自己的掌声,因为 ,有时掌声也会改变一个人对人生价值观的看法,会影响到人今后的一生!

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结婚纪念日

结婚纪念日就要到了。

丈夫问妻子:结婚纪念日那天,我们去哪儿呢?

妻子回:去我没去过的地方。

丈夫:那就去厨房吧。

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星期一 - 心情测试

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你的社交态度

女性对于小宝宝态度,与对待男性的相处态度有很大的相似处,从中可以看出女性的自信问题。

一般来说,很会逗弄小宝宝的人,其内心中不会有“被讨厌怎么办”的不安。

这是因为,心里的情绪表现在脸上,或是从态度中流露出来,这种不安感和不信任感就传达到小宝宝身上。小宝宝就会表现出相同的感情。

大人间的人际关系中,也是如此。

睡着的小宝宝,你一接近他就醒了。你认为小宝宝会有哪种反应?哭出来?笑出来?再睡回去?咳嗽?

A、哭出来

B、笑出来

C、再睡回去

D、咳嗽


解析:


选择 A :

对于自己的人际关系没有自信。

可能会因为在公司的人际关系不好,而感到烦恼,或是正为了爱人的关系而烦恼。


选择 B :

对于自己的人际关系相当有自信的人。

如果在人际关系上能够更加积极,从对方那儿也能够得到相当好的反应。但是,过于自信有时也会伤脑筋。因为回答“笑出来”的人,也许是过度的乐天派。是否会对周遭的人造成困扰,有必要再检查检查看。


选择 C :

喜欢独处,不关心人际关系。

即使自己一个人,也不会觉得孤独。也许,反而觉得比较轻松。但是,有时候,团体生活也是很重要的。和别人交往,也能够提升自己。


选择 D :

你选择这答案,可见你是一个比较容易担心的人。

虽然有能力,但是在人际关系方面,往往朝坏的方面去想。并且太在乎别人对你的看法。应该要更轻松些,坦诚地和别人交往,你一定会是个受人欢迎的人。

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星期一 - 心情好新闻

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To Write Love on Her Arms

To Write Love on Her Arms is a non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury and suicide. TWLOHA exists to encourage, inform, inspire and also to invest directly into treatment and recovery.

VISION:

The vision is that we actually believe these things…

You were created to love and be loved. You were meant to live life in relationship with other people, to know and be known. You need to know that your story is important and that you're part of a bigger story. You need to know that your life matters.

We live in a difficult world, a broken world. My friend Byron is very smart - he says that life is hard for most people most of the time. We believe that everyone can relate to pain, that all of us live with questions, and all of us get stuck in moments. You need to know that you're not alone in the places you feel stuck.

We all wake to the human condition. We wake to mystery and beauty but also to tragedy and loss. Millions of people live with problems of pain. Millions of homes are filled with questions – moments and seasons and cycles that come as thieves and aim to stay. We know that pain is very real. It is our privilege to suggest that hope is real, and that help is real.

You need to know that rescue is possible, that freedom is possible, that God is still in the business of redemption. We're seeing it happen. We're seeing lives change as people get the help they need. People sitting across from a counselor for the first time. People stepping into treatment. In desperate moments, people calling a suicide hotline. We know that the first step to recovery is the hardest to take. We want to say here that it's worth it, that your life is worth fighting for, that it's possible to change.

Beyond treatment, we believe that community is essential, that people need other people, that we were never meant to do life alone.

The vision is that community and hope and help would replace secrets and silence.

The vision is people putting down guns and blades and bottles.

The vision is that we can reduce the suicide rate in America and around the world.

The vision is that we would learn what it means to love our friends, and that we would love ourselves enough to get the help we need.

The vision is better endings. The vision is the restoration of broken families and broken relationships. The vision is people finding life, finding freedom, finding love. The vision is graduation, a Super Bowl, a wedding, a child, a sunrise. The vision is people becoming incredible parents, people breaking cycles, making change.

The vision is the possibility that your best days are ahead.

The vision is the possibility that we're more loved than we'll ever know.

The vision is hope, and hope is real.

You are not alone, and this is not the end of your story.

BEGIN:
This began as an attempt to tell a story and a way to help a friend in Spring 2006. The story and the life it represented were both things of contrast – pain and hope, addiction and sobriety, regret and the possibility of freedom. The story’s title “To Write Love on Her Arms” was also a goal, believing that a better life was possible. We started selling t-shirts as a way to pay for our friend’s treatment, and we made a MySpace page to give the whole thing a home. Our friends in Switchfoot and Anberlin were among the first to wear these shirts. In the days that followed, we learned quickly that the story we were telling represented people everywhere. We began to hear from people in need of help, and others asking what they could do to help their friends. We heard from people who had lost loved ones to suicide. Many said that these were questions they had never asked and parts of their story that they had never shared. Others were honest in a different way, confessing these were issues they knew little or nothing about. It seemed we had stumbled upon a bigger story, and a conversation that needed to be had.

Over the last two and a half years, we’ve responded to 80,000 messages from people in 40 different countries. We’ve had the opportunity to bring this conversation, and a message of hope and help, to concerts, universities, festivals and churches. We’ve learned that these are not American issues, not white issues or “emo” issues. These are issues of humanity, problems of pain that affect millions of people around the world.

We’ve learned that two out of three people who struggle with depression never seek help, and that untreated depression is the leading cause of suicide. In America alone, it’s estimated that 19 million people live with depression, and suicide is the third-leading cause of death among those 18-24 years old.

The good news is that depression is very treatable, that a very real hope exists in the face of these issues. We’ve met people who are getting the help they need, sitting across from a counselor for the first time, stepping into treatment, or reaching out to a suicide hotline in a desperate moment.

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粤「久久久」结婚潮掀蜜月游

2008年8月8日恰逢是京奥开幕的日子,全国一共有数10万对新人选择在当日喜结良缘,更创下历史纪录;今年是双春兼润月的好年,2009年9月9日合乎中国人「长长久久」的寓意,在广州,选择在「久久久」预约结婚的新人比去年的「发发发」更有过之而无不及,从而带旺旅游业借机推出蜜月游、旅行结婚等 的套餐,因应一轮的结婚潮,掀起一股蜜月游热潮!

一个完整的婚礼过程必须是宴席加上蜜月旅游,这曾经是上一代人心中对理想婚礼的定义;然而随着时代的进步,新一代的年轻人对于传统的繁锁礼节的中式婚礼大多感到烦厌,不少人都会选择旅行结婚「一切从简」,加上今年又适逢「结婚年」,广州不少的旅行社都纷纷推出蜜月旅游的路线,范围涵盖境内 、外多个蜜月胜地,深圳侨城、大溪地、宿雾、布吉、北海道,甚至再远至爱琴海均成为首推的路线。

据业内人士透露,为了加深一对新人结婚及蜜月旅游的浪漫回忆,行程的设计、入住的酒店均需经过精心挑选,他们会在高级的酒店或度假村内布置好新人的蜜月套房,如赠送红酒、小礼物及花瓣铺床的布置。据估计,旅行结婚兼度蜜月将会更备受年轻人的追捧,羊城市民又正兴起旅行结婚的风气,预计这种 新兴的结婚蜜月市场将会越来越庞大。

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